Restoring Relationships

Paul’s personal appeal to Philemon was to receive Onesimus, his runaway slave who became a Christian under Paul’s ministry (v. 10). Paul’s statement that he “might be much bold in Christ,” means that as an apostle of Jesus (Rom 1:1), he was vested with the authority to join Philemon so he can be given the proper biblical counsel on what should be done in his situation. Just like a nurse who “cherisheth her children” (1 Thes 2:7).

The phrase “that which is convenient” implies that Paul was not forcing himself to join Philemon, but he was voluntarily giving advice “for love’s sake” (v. 9). Since he was an aged apostle and leader of the early church, Paul also expresses his assurance that he would speak boldly under the power of the Holy Spirit (2 Cor 7:4). We don’t know the exact details of the crime that was committed by Onesimus (v. 18), but Paul was urging Philemon to show compassion and forgiveness (Eph 4:32). This letter provides an inspiring example to all of us about the power of forgiveness and reconciliation, just like what Joseph showed to his brothers (Gen 45:15)! Some folks may have treated us unfairly and rudely in the past; but we are to respond with kindness and grace (Mt 22:39).

The goal is to restore relationships “in the spirit of meekness” (Gal 6:1), which pleases the Lord. It also proves that we are His children (Jn 13:35). Paul moved into action to “enjoin” Philemon so he can do what is right! When Jesus came into this world, He “was moved with compassion” (Mk 6:34). Then He intervened by dying on the cross to save us from our sins (1 Pet 3:18). This New Year can be a renewed year of reconciling broken relationships. Let’s “put off the old man” (Col 3:9), with his fleshly deeds (Eph 4:31). And replace it with a Christ-like attitude of “brotherly love” (Rom 12:10). Let us learn to follow this “way of life” (Prov 10:17)! God bless you!

- Pastor Melito Barrera